A woman approached us about a conflict with her husband. It seemed that everything started over trivial matters, but it escalated into a real storm, and now she is asking us for advice on how to explain her point of view to her husband. However, our readers believe there is only one solution: divorce.
Our reader dropped us a message.
My husband doesn’t let me spend much time in the bathroom. He says “normal” people spend 10-15 minutes in there. If I spend more time than that, he thinks I’m pretending to shower while texting or calling other men. He even stands by the door listening to what I’m doing, and if the sounds seem “suspicious” to him, he starts banging on the door, asking what’s going on.
Once, after a stressful day at work, I took about half an hour to shower and relax. My husband shouted, “What’s taking you so long?” I said I was almost done. He didn’t believe me. He tried to take the door off and started picking the lock.
I couldn’t believe what was happening next – he stormed into the bathroom holding his phone and recording me. Thankfully, I was already dressed. He said he wanted to catch me cheating and use the video as proof. I can’t take this anymore! How do I explain to him that what he’s doing is not normal?
Our readers noticed alarming signs in such behavior.
- He’s a controlling narcissist, record as much of his behaviour as you can remember. Divorce him. © Anne Mildon / Facebook
- Privacy is a must for shower/baths, getting ready. NO trust = no relationship, Any women should leave as soon as they can, that’s pretty bad. © Mary E Ward / Facebook
- Oh sweetie, he is a controlling freak. Contact a lawyer and get out of there. His behavior is not normal. Go where you are safe and make sure he can not harm you. If you have kids then it is not safe for them either. Red flags…. © Ilonka Wimmer-Ljungqvist / Facebook
- I’d be explaining his unreasonable behaviour to him via my solicitor! © Linda Bond / Facebook
- This is not just a red flag, but a true cry that it’s time for you to divorce him. I’m sure the divorce will be ugly; narcissists don’t let go of their women easily. Talk to a lawyer, prepare the documents, find a safe place, and gather support from relatives and friends. And mentally, be prepared for him to become even angrier and more aggressive. © Lucy Hems / Facebook
- Wait, you’re asking how to explain to him???? Instead of packing a few things and not looking back! © Mary Bloch / Facebook
- You can stay in the bathroom all day if you want & all night too. You don’t need to be near him if possible. © Karen Beggs / Facebook
What would you advise the author of the letter?
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